Hey All,

I just finished reading s number of replies to the questions " how did your partner disclose?", "did he get help?", etc.

I was struck by how similar the ways that men have dealt with their abuse- I never think others struggled like I did.

For me, my story is some what backwards- I got sober from alcohol early in life (in college) slid more into sex addiction in my 20s , got sober and found healthy sexuality after six and half years of marriage, and THEN the abuse memories showed up because of some life events.

I feel fortunate that I had so much 12 step and other support to deal with my addictions before I faced the abuse. I know these have been invaluable in facing my life's issues and not totally self destructing as I walk thru this.

So I wanted to ask:

what has helped your partner on his journey?
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