Hello Genes.

I am new here too. I am feeling a little out of place as well. But we are here for the right reasons, to learn, to understand, to heal, and that is a big step.

Well, I wanted to tell my husband, to assure him that he is worthy, and that's why I want to fight for him. And that the pain he causes me, is not really him, is his trauma and pain speaking. I don't expect him to open up to me. I just want to let him know that I will be there, if he decides to, with no judgments or hard expectations.
But I am unsure if that will help or make things worse.
We've been married for 10 years, but he is a total stranger to me. It is sad and overwhelming at times. His behavior is start to make me feel numb inside, because of his rejection and distance.

Thank you for your sincere response.