I would love to know if there are any programs that do not rely on the individual having a spiritual belief. I find it hard to find solace in these programs because of this common aspect. I know they have tried to water down this aspect to make it accessible to all, but my overly rational brain keeps stumbling over this part because it is really key to the "letting go" of any sense of control. I have always argued (with myself) to be self aware of the path I make for myself. I do not believe I am destined to be happy or sad, succeed or fail. I believe I control these choices and am fully responsible for my wrongs to others. This keeps me grounded and honest so to speak. This is my moral code. How do I marry this fundamental belief that I am fully responsible for everything that happens or does not in my life with a 12 step program that rely's on a relationship with an external power?
Yes, I also find it frustrating that most support groups tend to use some sort of 12-step program with a spiritual component. When I was younger and struggling with addiction, this was really a powerful barrier for me. I believed in (the existence of) God, but also believed that He didn't love me and wouldn't lift a finger for me, so I never identified as a Christian. That only happened recently. So I could never complete step 3...
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
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