trust your instincts. keep yourself safe. preserve your anonymity and distance. there is no reason you should reveal more personal details to someone else who won't reciprocate. even if they do give "facts" how do you know it is true?
i guess i'm a bit paranoid too.
"That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. . . What will your verse be?" Robin Williams as John Keating in "Dead Poets Society"