trust your instincts. keep yourself safe. preserve your anonymity and distance. there is no reason you should reveal more personal details to someone else who won't reciprocate. even if they do give "facts" how do you know it is true?
i guess i'm a bit paranoid too.
We are often troubled, but not crushed;
sometimes in doubt, but never in despair;
there are many enemies, but we are never without a friend;
and though badly hurt at times, we are not destroyed.
- Paul, II Cor 4:8-9