Saying that a person felt like they were a boy during the abuse is different from demanding to be accepted as such, for something that was physically impossible.
Worse, saying that people deserved abuse that happened to them in a survivor site of any kind is not acceptable or appropriate. Comments like that raise other questions about a person's motive for even being here.
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato