“Sports is a place where parents send their boys to learn skills, to learn how to be teammates and how to work together — to make boys stronger and healthier,” said Dr. Howard Fradkin, author of “Joining Forces,” a book about how men can heal from sexual abuse. “It’s the place where we send our boys to grow up. The betrayal that occurs when abuse occurs in sports is damaging because it destroys the whole intent of what they started out to do.”
I think I agree with the idea here. I went out for football team in 8th grade. It was exhilerating. I felt as though I was finally going to climb on top of the negativity of my life. I had been sexually abused and tortured at camp the year before. Nobody knew this. They only observed some of the effects in my behavior. I couldn't talk above a whisper because I was emotionally disabled. However, the football coach, who was also my gym teacher, took it upon himself to persecute me. He rudely and publicly dismissed me from the JV football team. Then in gym class, he called roll in a way that would embarrass me and emphasize my disability and make me feel bad. In the wrestling part of the gym class, he pitted me against a boy whom he thought was stronger and more confident than I was. I rehearsed the wrestling moves we had been taught and took control of the situation. I won the first round and the "coach" stopped the match.