"I think one of the principles of recovery is taking back control over our sexuality as men. In doing so we don't have to fit anyone else's definition of manhood."
BINGO! I wholeheartedly agree with this statement. There should be no shame in our sexuality. It is when shame gets in the way of the rest of our lives, that we need to address whatever issue might be there.
It's a heroes journey, and you are the hero.
Loving Kindness Meditation will dramatically improve your spirits; give it a try for just 3 days: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz7cpV7ERsM