Gecko: it was enormously helpful, not just for me, but also for my H. The T was able to translate some of the things I was saying in a way my H could be better understand and vice versa. Just learning what kind of therapy model they are using, what are the ongoing concerns my H has, and what are sticking points was incredibly informative. She also provided good tips in what to look for in a marriage counselor.
All in all, I feel like my H and I have turned a corner. I don't expect easy sailing, he has a long way to go in therapy, but I think he really believes that he is safe with me and I am always in his corner.
I think I will talk to my T about my girlfriend joining us for a session some time early next year.
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
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