why we both see the T?

he is available.
he is not a specialist.
not many options.
fortunately he is good.
it simplifies things that he knows all my issues and also can help with our relationship.
not marriage counseling per se...
don't know what is usual.
i don't think we are the ususal case.
it works for us.
There’s a special providence in the fall of a sparrow. If it be now, ’tis not to come. If it be not to come, it will be now. If it be not now, yet it will come—the readiness is all. - Hamlet, Act 5, sc 2