why we both see the T?

he is available.
he is not a specialist.
not many options.
fortunately he is good.
it simplifies things that he knows all my issues and also can help with our relationship.
not marriage counseling per se...
don't know what is usual.
i don't think we are the ususal case.
it works for us.
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself... And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity." - Paulo Coelho