I just wanted to offer something in the way of encouragement ... and to the others as well. your husband must love you a lot and really wanting to make it work. cause there is no way I could even consider doing something like what you are talking about. I'm not sure I understand exactly what you are talking about ( I never heard of EFT) but therapy alone, with me alone, is waaaaaaay more then I want to do EVER. I do think trust is a HUGE issue and I know it is for me but no way i could handle it that way. so give your man a hug he must really be trying hard!
Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell's heart I stab at thee; for hate's sake I spit my last breath at thee. let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, thou damned whale! Thus, I give up the spear!"