I've been working very hard at recovery this past few months.
Something hit me like a ton of bricks this morning when the thought crossed my mind:
"When I have created a safe space for me in my own heart, I can allow others in to share that same space. This is where intimacy is born."
POW. It resonates deeply in my soul and it just makes sense. Of course, how can I share myself with someone else in authentic ways if I'm scared? If I reject myself, I make an unsafe space in my heart for me (and my inner child) to take solace. When I'm able to create that safe space for myself in my heart, then I can extend that same sense of safety and acceptance to others.
It's a heroes journey, and you are the hero.
Loving Kindness Meditation will dramatically improve your spirits; give it a try for just 3 days: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sz7cpV7ERsM