Like the previous comment also says, your post is inspirational to me too.

The way you want to seperate this incident from the abuse and not connect it is very brave. I know that I myself tend to blame my upbringing and my past for certain things that go wrong. It's too easy to say it's me, i'm an idiot, I get everything wrong, I can't do anything right, I don't deserve this, etc.

Good job for taking a stand and not letting this drag you down and just say that this happened because of your abuse. I believe everything happens for a reason and i'm sure better things will happen for you. Maybe that 25% bonus was worth this life lesson that is going to make you stronger.

You have opened my eyes. Thank you =)