Hi Vic, welcome to this site and thank you for sharing. Yes, there are worse cases here, but in the end we are all victims - or survivors, depending on how far you are in the healing process. I feel for you, having to deal with close family member who is also an abuser. In my case, my brother was my main abuser. I know how it feels to hate someone, the same person who was your hero.
Good luck to you and your family.
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When there are dolphins in the waves,
the sharks wont get to us.
I believed my dad that day
and became Dolphinboy,
my own protector.