There is no book that's going to make you or even help you to stop any behavior. You need insight into what abuse has done to you and how we all typically react and grow. That said:
TOP recommendation is Mike Lew's book: "Victims No Longer."
Its a fantastic book that has provided thousands of survivors with the fundamentals of understanding what happened and how it effected us. Start there IMO.
Ken Singer here is also an author and a specialist in this area. He's here at MS and likely has some great recommendations for you. I'm sure you can PM him.