I am to honor my parents. Period. This verse does not carry the 'in the Lord' qualification, it is a new statement. But what is honor? Lack of disrespect.... I've been able (at least some) to fulfill this with politeness on the phone when required, no more screaming at them for their "crimes against me", etc etc. They know what they are - the Lord will deal with them. (Romans 12:19 "It is mine to avenge, I will repay.")
And if there's any doubt where to draw the line, there's Col 3:23 "And in all you do - do it as to the Lord".
Just my take.
Mmmm, I'm wondering if this is perhaps what he meant when he said "honor"...
I interpreted "honor" as respecting them, even when they aren't present (he mentioned not talking bad about them in front of others, etc, which, at the time, I also interpreted as I'm not supposed to tell people how they abused me, because that would be showing them in a bad light, and thus "dishonoring" them. Which is pretty much what my mother told me when I told her my father was molesting us - don't say such things! He's your father, you need to respect him!
I just don't know...
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
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