So basically, you're saying my pastor was wrong, and that I don't have to honor them if they don't live according to the will of God?
That sounds a lot better. No way either of them brought me up in the way any God I'd be willing to worship would want...
"And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Eph 6:4
Your pastor failed to bring up that other scripture. If you provoke your kids to wrath, you deserve what you get. Honor works both ways you know.