I want sex that says "I love you, honey. I want to show you how special you are to me". Sex that says "No matter what you are the best man I have ever met, and I am so lucky and happy to have found and be with you, because I love you so much".
I'm no expert. I have spent much of my life pursuing sex that says nothing but "make me feel good....now
". But I'm guessing that what you describe above is what most women want too. I'd take it in a minute if I could. I'd be happy just to have a woman say
those things to me out loud. Leave the kinky stuff to those who need something more than that. I hope you find a woman who will love you unconditionally and satisfy you beyond your wildest dreams. Good luck.
"Suffering was the only thing that made me feel I was alive,
Thought thats just what it cost to survive in this world,
...now I haven't got time for the pain... " -Carly Simon now 67!