I want sex that says "I love you, honey. I want to show you how special you are to me". Sex that says "No matter what you are the best man I have ever met, and I am so lucky and happy to have found and be with you, because I love you so much".
I'm no expert. I have spent much of my life pursuing sex that says nothing but "make me feel good....now
". But I'm guessing that what you describe above is what most women want too. I'd take it in a minute if I could. I'd be happy just to have a woman say
those things to me out loud. Leave the kinky stuff to those who need something more than that. I hope you find a woman who will love you unconditionally and satisfy you beyond your wildest dreams. Good luck.
"But now old friends are acting strange,
they shake their heads, they say I've changed.
Something's lost but something's gained in living every day
....it's life's illusions I recall, I really don't know life at all. "Joni Mitchell