Finding a good T is a mission.
I had several who was totally incapable of understanding the effect the abuse had on me, let alone still helping me understand it.
I had several who point-blank refused to treat me because I my file said "possible Borderline Personality".
Most only seemed interested in prescribing as many meds as possible.
Like you experienced - only one helped me set goals and held me to them.
I consider myself as very fortunate to have found my current T. She gets me, and she has my back.
But I know how you feel. I've been there. It sucks.
I guess what I'm trying to say
Is whose life is it anyway because livin'
Living is the best revenge
You can play
-- Def LeppardMy Story
, Part 2My blog