Hi

I have gone totally blank on the whole emotional intimacy thing and would like someone to explain it to me.

Anyone wants to help me with their definition of:

What is the difference between a sexual-based relationship and a love-based relationship? (other than the physical thing)

What is the difference between a superficial interpersonal relationship and a deep interpersonal relationship?

Why is emotional intimacy desirable, when it makes you vulnerable?

Can't we get enough emotional satisfaction from just sexualized relationships?


When instead a person can avoid being vulnerable, get lots of "feelings of excitement", and still get the many short feelings of being loved through a constant chase of superficial sexualized relationships like buying sex or pursuing the exciting and secretive "chase them and make them surrender to me" (either online, by sms, or in person). This way there are constant messages of "love you, miss you, think you are great, you are special". Can't we get enough emotional satisfaction from just sexualized relationships? There are lots of affirmation. There is no conflict to deal with in superficial relationships.

Why change?

thanks,

Heidi