I am so sorry for your pain. I can relate to what he is going through, I remember getting angry about everything. repetitive sounds used to make me crazy. Loud noises, my daughter playing certain games and sudden movements, all these things would set me off on a tirade.
I cant remember the progress of your H's therapy, but look at getting him into a survivors group so that he can start to feel like he is not the only one that this is happening too. There is great comfort in the group dynamic for survivors, along with therapy.
I pray that you have someone that can support you. You need love care and understanding too.
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