I really acknowledge your words peroperic. Yes, one of the important moments on my therapy was to accept that happened to me from my mother. It is really difficult to understand cause she has never be a violent person, on the other hand we can say she has been an intellectual.
This, an the fact that my family has been a disfunctional one (like many others here). I think that the objective is to keep on going with life, even if the family experience has been a difficult one.
I will keep on telling here how the process goes on, for sure.