yeh - it's a lot to tackle all at once.
hold on until the "Sandy" moments subside a little.
then pick one piece of debris and try to identify it and decide what to do with it.
one step at a time.
and there is always someone here - either live or in their posts - that can help you get a handle on things.
"That you are here - that life exists, and identity; that the powerful play goes on and you may contribute a verse. . . What will your verse be?" Robin Williams as John Keating in "Dead Poets Society"