I agree get to therapy ASAP.

As for the rest, it sounds like he is acting out and, that's pretty typical, especially early on in healing.

As hard as it is to understand, it does not mean he does not love or want you. He is venting, probably reliving the abuse in some way. Acting out like that isn't about wanting the sex, it's about hurting and not knowing how or where to turn or how to deal with it in healthy ways.