Holy Cheese! my survivor and I just had this debate, about trying to control him. I'm a type A personality and I like for things within my bubble to go a certain but I'm not going to fall into the abyss if they don't. I adjust and go on. I tried to explain to my BF that I was sorry if he ever felt like I wanted to control him.

I don't want that kind of responsibility. My love language is "affirmation" and I've told him that for me sometimes things need to be said and in turn he responds with how I try to control his responses. Its ok for me to take his moodiness and cheating but its not ok for me to need to hear that he loves me or that he's sorry, because I can't control everything.

....ahhh sorry didn't mean to derail your thread, but I can totally relate...
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