Thanks for the reply
I really appreciate your perspective on my situation. As much as I wish I could tell my husband that I understand his pain, the fact of the matter is I can't. I *see* his pain, and I in turn feel pain for him, but it's not the same.
I have offered to go to therapy with my husband, but he *really* didn't seem keen on that idea. Do you mind my asking, did you ask your wife to go with you, or did she offer and you accepted? Did you initiate your therapy, or did your wife suggest it?
Thanks again for your help.