It's hard to not feel like we are somehow "tainted" and thus the cause of much, if not all of what goes wrong around us but, we really aren't. 90% of it is not our fault, just as the abuse was not, is not and, never will be our fault.
I think part of it is the whole own what's yours, take responsibility and Ts going there too soon. We go overboard and own the abuse and anything we can find to own, even id it isn't ours. Sure we need to own what is truly ours but, not everything else too. With T going there before we really get the two separated, we own too much.
Yes T can bee good but, not always and, yes I have had some bad experiences with T so, might be a bit jaded on it.