Wow Mark. One of my worst nightmares. I entirely understand feeling shortchanged and invalidated. I agree w/Blue and Scott.
I don't know the T's intentions, but it seems the last damn thing you need is more invalidation. Especially if it's careless.
At the very least - yeah, I know you feel like quitting - please go back to the T, tell him exactly how you feel about it and see his reaction. Frankly, if it's more invalidation, I'd walk. Simply, some T's aren't equipped to deal with CSA. And, frankly, despite letters after their names, some aren't equipped to even be in the business.
Fortunately, you're in Denver and there are probably plenty of choices out there. Heal well, brother.
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