I think our goal is to hurt ourselves and anyone ancillary will be impacted but that is not our objective. We tend to look at ourselves as damaged good, deserving of nothing good in our lives. Those around us do not understand how we react to the memories, the pain and to their actions-to them they may not be seen as harmful but to us--once captive and forced to to do things that we did not understand--these actions open the old wounds. The survivor and supporters need help to heal.