Hi again CXY --
Not exactly an all or none proposition, imo. Yeah, there's brutal honesty which can be useful...i.e., I used it to confront my parental abusers.
There's a middle ground, however, which will require some thought on your part. You can selectively share with the folks to see what answers you get. Not to go metaphysical on you, but there's sometimes a reason I don't get answers. I hope you get yours.
One thing that makes me feel good about your post is your desire to protect other children. It's wholly admirable and something I believe you should keep in mind as you pursue this.