Hi Alan --
Having walked a mile or five in your shoes, I wish there was something I could do/say to turn it around. Best I can say is that our situations aren't dissimilar, though I'm having more success on the legal end.
It's not the preferred solution - they took their damn time getting in touch - but I did find T services thru a public agency addressing sexual abuse. I mention it as an option, however, because any diagnosis (PTSD, DID, depression, etc.) would help with a disability claim, another can of worms in itself.