Bob,
I like you advice about your wife demanding that you step up. Every time I make a demand, my husband gets his back up. He tells me he has authority issues because of what happened to him. How would you handle that one?

And Ginger, hang in there. This site is pretty helpful. Especially on those days where my husband can't handle a conversation about this stuff. I know I can always come here. I understand a lot of what your saying. Good luck.