I'm in a somewhat situation as Alden......after seeing a play several years ago with my wife about an 11 year old boy who was abused I completely fell apart. I told my wife about the abuse and the possibility that I could be gay. I went to a support group for married gay men. Everyone seemed far too happy with families that had adjusted well to their dual identity. I stopped going since I couldn't relate. My wife took that to mean that I decided I wasn't gay. Now we are in joint therapy and my wife has said that I need to decide if I'm gay and, if so, then our marriage is over. Not sure what to do or where to go with this.....does it stem from the abuse? Not sure and I don't think that that is relevant anymore. I seem so well adjusted on the surface but there is turmoil inside.......