Sorry to hear that your friend made it sound like a simple and instant process. For me, it was a start, with laying all of this at the Cross, but only a start. I was afraid for years as I thought if I say anything God will find out and really hate me. That was how they kept me under control...guilt, shame and fear of discovery. Then I realized God already knew everything, and those chains were broken off of me. I'm still working on figuring it all out. I learned to forgive my perps because it helped me more then it helped them, I was able to start letting go of anger. When I started I learned to say that I am no longer defined by this. This past week I learned that I was never defined by it. I'm just starting the process, getting back into T, but I do get strength through my faith, and I don't think God expects me to figure it out all at once.
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark. The real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.” - Plato