Thank you Bob. I appreciate your support and insight. I've realized that i do it to myself as much as he does it to me.

It's interesting what you say about survivors letting people into their lives And personal space for arbitrary reasons. It seems my husband extricates them in the same way. He said on Saturday that he hasn't contacted the friend he spent almost every weekend fishing with because he just doesn't care. It's messed up to me that a friendship can mean so little to a person.

He of course had to get in touch today to tell me he doesn't want any smoked pike. I'm sure it's not about the pike. I was almost sucked into asking him how he's doing today but instead I'm ignoring the text. My friend thinks he's punishing me in some passive aggressive way for having to hear my feelings yesterday. I think she's right.