CloudyFalls,
Identify a style you like and dress that way. Celebrate your own differences. I am GLBT or LGBT or GAY or whatever you want to call it...married to another guy. I have dated transgendered individuals as well. (specifically a bio-female-who was using a male name and identity) I considered myself a male and I considered him a male because that is what he desired to be. He went by Eric at home. .....However.....he used his legal name of Mary Constance, and people outside our home knew him to be a "woman". (Eric never fully transitioned, only once in a while used hormones.) We dated, lived together, had sex, and married. He used to grab my hand in the wal mart parking lot and say to me, "cmon honey, let's go act like Joe and Mary normal". Ha ha.
I identified as a gay man before dating Eric. I identified as a Gay man while dating Eric, and I identified as a gay man after Dating Eric.
Today I am married to a male person named David. I am a male personn named Geoff. We identify as gay people.
It is all in how you choose to express your sexuality, I am out to my co-workers, my facebook is gay, all who know me know I am GLBT. Be who you want to be...we love you just the way you are.
Good Luck
Geoff