CdnDW,
it does help...a good reminder...i've adapted to a lot of his routine and he's adjusted it for me. i think i forget that he has these sensitivities as reactions and not just as eccentricities. i get used to them and i begin to think that he's doing it on purpose, since our relationship has created a lot of stability for both of us and we've been able to become healthier people.

i forget that there is a reason for them and that a stable relationship isn't enough security to give them up...all at once or even with time.

it's good to be reminded that they are reasonable to him. thanks for adjusting my perspective.