Ditto to what Robbie said, except that at some point, now or in the future your sons May blame you for not figuring it out. This often stems from a child's innate belief that parents are
"all-knowing/seeing". So I recommend preparing for that also.

Teens can & do come to this site. PM a mod for guidance on this.
But please be aware that people here are not required to tell you what your sons might say here & it can get dicey with confidentiality & parent boundaries.

I would also suggest you make connections in the Friends & Families Forum.

Lastly, check out the book list MS recommends, and/or, PM Ken Singer for book suggestions for teens.

Welcome & I hope we are able to be supportive to you.