Pardon me for chiming in but you posted this in Off Topic rather than the men-only section so here goes...

This person said: You are hurting abused kids by telling them that their lives will be "gravely affected." Tell them they'll be able to get on with it and live a happy life.

This sounds an awful lot like sweeping the issue under the rug, doesn't it? Sadly this opinion prevails among people who have not been abused or aren't directly involved in a survivor's life. They just don't understand. While I realize that the person who posted that comment may be thinking of "hope for the future" it certainly didn't come through that way. To me it just sounds like "don't talk about it, move on and pretend nothing happened." frown