Today I compare sexual urges I have on other men with the same straight behavior. You know the guys who leer at every woman who walks by or smiles. I remember that-just because I am attracted to a fella, that doesn't make him available, Nor does it require me to become a knuckle-dragging cave man. {Me think you cute & carry you off he he he}

I am capable of telling an obviously straight man that he is very attractive without disclosing some pornographic imagined image of him I see in my mind. I respect them, I refuse to disclose my sexual interest and keep it light and airy. I am married and not available myself which is also not a secret.

I am also more than capable of having an intelligent conversation even with a adonis look a like. Have a little moment where you ogle him with his back turned, but remember to actually listen to his voice. Force a topic change and engage him. Don't avoid him and whisper while you ogle him, dare to be a friend. Treat him as if he is just like your gay friends. Find some common ground and talk. You will find they respect us, value our opinions, and don't always know we are gay. Often times, once we get to know them they are not near as cute as we once thought they were. The distance maintains the allure...and the friendship lets us see them as they really are. Sometimes they are awkward, sometimes arrogant, always a little self absorbed. Most Straight men are so busy being into themselves they hardly notice other men unless they are friends. Good Luck Guys.