My story is so typical in these forums that it's almost redundant to mention it, but the super-short version is this: I don't identify as gay but I am attracted to white-haired men; I am attracted to women, but my relationships with them always end in tears.
I am not gay; I am not straight; I am not bi; nor am I trans. I am a survivor. That's what I am. The abuse eliminated my ability to have any identity that is currently discussed in the mainstream world, even in the LGBT community.
Therefore, I suggest that we as survivors advocate for those who advocate for the LGBT community to consider adding an "S" to their un-pronouncable acronym.
I do not identify as LGBT, but I could find a home under an LGBTS umbrella. We are survivors; that's what we are.
Recovery is possible. Hang in there, brothers.