The total shaming of my personality and identity were the most incredibly damaging.

I am not gay or from the south or the unhappy member of a family full of right-wing whack-jobs but I feel you. Preach!
I've got a bike you can ride it if you like.
Its got a basket, a bell that rings
And many other things to make it look good.
I'd give it to you if I could -but I've borrowed it.