Gay is gay folks. Period and all that there is. You cannot turn back gay and make a guy straight.
You can only make that statement for yourself. You have not lived in everyone else's shoes. Again with a declarative statement...
Its just like saying black is black and there is no variation in there. If you believe that, there are millions who will disagree on what "black" is.
To be clear: we don't agree that we are talking about two separate topics. There is no bright line. That would make it easier, that's for sure, but its not and that's why its studied endlessly.
My perspective is completely different than yours. I disagree with your way of looking at things. I'm not going to try to convince you that I'm right and you're wrong. That's for other people to do. I don't need to be right.
I will say this: I used to look at things similarly but I've had real life experiences that show me more than I thought I knew.