I know how you feel Lee. In my case, guys, growing up, I was the peacemaker and people pleaser. Compliance was my middle name. Meanwhile, I was trying to figure out how to die without making it look like my fault.
What did it get me? I lost myself. Instead of standing up for myself, I acted out to release the pressure. All the time, I told myself that I was doing everyone a favor by being the nice guy. B.S.
Hero. You and my wife could really have a long talk over this observation. I may show her this. You just described me perfectly. You just described what she has said to me many times.