This book looks good. I'm going to get a copy when my fortune comes in. The author's name is Spiegel, which in German means "looking glass". I thought that was appropriate.

http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Abuse-Males-Theory-Practice/dp/1560324031/

There are lots of things I have questions about, for my self and for other guys here at MS. This may be the source of answers.