Pattycakes makes a very valid point. All new registrants are now required to fill out the gender box during the registration process as a prerequisite to continuing the registration process. It is especially important, and on August 14, 2010 will be made a requirement for all Family & Friends participants to go to the My Stuff page and enter your gender in the space provided.
As has been pointed out, This is a site designed specifically for male survivors of sexual abuse or assault to process their abuse issues and to work toward recovery. It is also a place for our significant loved ones who want to support us or who need to learn what we are facing, and the part they play in our lives/recovery, to participate on a more limited basis.
Above all, courtesy is a must on this site whether it be on the forums, private messages, or in the chat room. Part of that courtesy is declaring who you are if you are not a male or not a survivor. Another part of that courtesy is using the forums and chat rooms in accordance with the site guidelines for that participation. Here are the links to those guidelines specifically as they apply to F&F site users: Site Use Guidelines Chat Use Guidelines Posting and Chat Guidelines for Family and Friends