I think the abuse trauma gets imprinted on our inner brain, the amygdala. Once it is there it keeps giving us signals that we are traumatized and that we should expect trauma. But since the trauma has ceased, these signals are no longer appropriate. But we don't have conscious access to these deep areas of our brain, so we can't control those types of signals. It may be that EMDR helps. EMDR certainly helped me.

Allen

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