I have seen several posts with ppl looking for a group to join. I have been involved with a Christ based group www.celebraterecovery.com
I urge you to look for a group in your area or contact John and ask how to start one in your church.
It is not just about abuse but all out habits hurts and hang-ups. In my group and others there is no pressure to become a Christian or pressure of any kind. Just getting well, and staying that way. I just found out my best friend was a victim too. He had not even told his wife of that part of his past.
My God bless you in your quest for freedom which ever way you take.

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Hate destroys not the hated but, the hater.

Dan