I have seen several posts with ppl looking for a group to join. I have been involved with a Christ based group www.celebraterecovery.com
I urge you to look for a group in your area or contact John and ask how to start one in your church.
It is not just about abuse but all out habits hurts and hang-ups. In my group and others there is no pressure to become a Christian or pressure of any kind. Just getting well, and staying that way. I just found out my best friend was a victim too. He had not even told his wife of that part of his past.
My God bless you in your quest for freedom which ever way you take.

Hate destroys not the hated but, the hater.