i know this is a pretty basic question, but im interested in your responses and how you go about it. i was wondering when and how you tell people you are poz? (people you are interested in dating and/or having sex with.) i mean, yeah before you have sex you shoudl tell, but do you do it before you really know the person to spare the heart break? or do you let them get to know you first so they dont jsut write you off. do you have a ritual way of telling them? something planned out? or is it case by case?