Thanks to everybody for the support and words of wisdom. Indygal, so sorry if my last post sounded pissy. I really did think about what you said and you made some really good points. Certainly, we don't want this to go to court, obviously it would be painful and embarrassing. However, my H is adamant that he will not give her anything. Not now, not ever. In his words, "She will not be rewarded for what she took from me." I honestly don't even think it's about money for her, as it's about making sure that he remembers her. Power. Could she go to court and lie? Sure. But hopefully it won't get that far.

Love to all,
Wife