tar i really didnt think anyone was acting superior ,it just seems like people think its sad that i cant forgive ,this is a good post and i agree totaly that we need to agree to disagree but we should still be able to hold a conversation on the subject. i understand that those who forgive find it helps and as friends they only want to offer what helped them , maybe this is one way i let my anger get in the way of my understanding. i get angry at what happened and maybe it comes out in these kind of posts,if so thats one more reason to not forgive him ,because he even made it hard for me to accept help when its offered.

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